SR, I would do the checking myself on the bills so no "mistake" is made with your utilities. Also, you should be more clear that this is the final payment for ATT so she doesn't come after you again next month as seems to be her habit. For the household stuff, I would give her an actual date in Aug that she needs to meet and as Braveheart said stipulate that in the D paperwork so she can't claim later that she needs more.
For D's bday, I would just make my own plans. You can let her know if you want but eventually you are going to be doing things separately anyway might as well get used to it.
Same thing with the school visit. Tell her when you are going and let her know she's welcome to come along if she wants or arrange something on her own. By the way, I thought the school thing was thing in dispute, did you guys reach an agreement?
