So what I don't know is whether or not all the damage done is repairable.
This is up to you. Are you willing to take the risk to find out?
Originally Posted By: Bradley11
I guess the problem I'm wrestling with is this: is she the person I married-- is that person still there? Or was that person just an idea I created in my head and the person I "met" this year is the REAL her. but if its not the real her... then is the real her ever coming back?
Bradley, did you read anything at all about MLC while you were here?
She is not the person you married right now. But yes, a part of that person is still there, underneath all of it.
This is a transformation of the soul. No she won’t be the person you married. Just like you are not the person she married. You are both different and changed by this.
It CAN be better, though. Better than it was before.
Originally Posted By: Bradley11
and Cat... I have had a year to think about what I did in the relationship that was wrong... I truly believe I am a different person-- that I am much more aware of those around me. that I am much more considerate. and whoever I will end up in the future I will work to cherish and foster the relationship with them-- and never take it for granted.
I really hope that you have learned this Bradley. This is what it is going to take from you to even attempt to put this back together.
Think about what Bill has said to you.
Originally Posted By: Bworl
It might just be possible that right now is where you will find out just how much abiility you have to forgive.
It might also be the point where you must face head on the very personal question of did you ever really love your wife the way a man should love his wife.
Answer these questions for you.
I am gonna bet that you are not sure of the answers right now. There is only one way to find out. You can take the risk, or not…
Your choice…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
