You could too, it's a matter of perspective. And it's FAR too easy to look at a wacked out MLC spouse from a healthy distance and say "Why in the heck would I want to go back to THAT?"
Everyone on here who had an MLC spouse could say the same thing.
This turn of events should bring you back to the beginning. Back to the reason you came here to begin with. Not an ending, but instead a situation that could now actually be a starting point.
Of course your wife is not genuine in wanting to come home right now. Any fool can see that.
But her desperation is certainly an indication that she has a bottom that she can reach. I don't know, I'm no expert, but I seem to recall many counseling me over the years that an MLC'er reaching some kind of bottom state was usually a good and necessary thing if they were ever going to return to some semblance of the person they were before.
It might just be possible that right now is where you will find out just how much abiility you have to forgive.
It might also be the point where you must face head on the very personal question of did you ever really love your wife the way a man should love his wife.
I'm hoping you won't take the current status (which finds YOU finally in the stronger place) and use it to simply cut her loose.
These real life stories are as long as we are willing to allow them to be, for the most part.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
