W had apologized to me for falling to sleep due to her headache. I told W that "there is no need to be sorry I understand your head hurts you and you need your rest"
Do NOT say "there is no need to be sorry"..
The better reply to her is.."Oh that's ok honey, I know your head hurts and you need your rest"
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This morning I got up and ready for court. W woke up briefly and ask if I had time to make her breakfast before I left, I had time so I did so. W was in bed when I left, I let W know I was leaving and W said "be careful"
Perfect. BE A HAPPY MAN.. This was all good. She asked you to make breakfast, you had time, you made breakfast, you let her know you were leaving (HAPPILY I HOPE) and she said be careful.... This shows things are moving right along. BE A HAPPY MAN...
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W said she told the Dr. that "My husband and I want to start a family how would these medications affect a pregnancy" I just listened and said "I hope these new meds work and the headaches finally go away."
This should continue to make you A HAPPY MAN. She is WANTING TO HAVE A BABY WITH YOU.. (get it?? women don't normally want to have a baby with men they don't love or are going to leave...)
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Just before W had called I got an email from the retrouvaille rep in our area. I told W the details of the email and said to W "I am going to put a deposit in to hold a spot for us, I really believe we can benefit from going and will be well worth it" W said "I hope so." We ended the conversation with an exchange of ILY.
EXCELLENT AGAIN.... This should again keep you being A HAPPY MAN.. I love the way you said this part here " I am going to put a deposit in to hold a spot for us, I really believe we can benefit from going and will be well worth it"
THAT is the way you take charge and tell a woman things. "I decided" type of attitude.. Good job. Notice how she just went along with it.. be the leader.. be a HAPPY LEADER. BE A HAPPY MAN..
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The question is...Should I not be saying ILY? is that too much pressure? W does say it in return but does no initiate.
MY question is.. WHY are you saying it.. To get her to say it back or to find out IF she loves you? To hear her say it back? That is the way it is coming across to me. Women can sense when you have lack of confidence when you say things like that. AND you Do LACK CONFIDENCE.. Which means it is coming across to her as.... "please say it back to me, oh please tell me you love me too.. I love you I love you, do you love me back?"
NOT GOOD...
IF you are going to say it THEN be a man about it(my concern is that you will go ovwerboard because you are so needy. I hate telling you it is ok to say it because of that need you seem to have for constant reassurance that she loves you)..Be A HAPPY MAN and say it like you mean it and say it whether she says it back or not. She has TOLD you she loves you and always has. Isn't part of trusting, believing what she is telling you? Then BELIEVE HER. Stop being unhappy and start to be A HAPPY MAN... You should be thrilled the way things are going and you still seem like a sad sack with no goals or passion about something other than obsessing about your wife. No wonder she feels smothered. You seem to think her being at the Dr for an hour is time apart... Not good to think like that.
