I think I may come up with a kindof list of requirements that I would need in order to take her back. and then we could go from there.
Bradley, I think you MUST have a list of conditions, considering the circumstances that led to her decision to return.
I think the first thing I would ask my H if he wanted to come back would be "What has changed?" It's a question that could elicit all kinds of responses from which you might learn a lot. I would need to know that he had stopped all contact with OW, and that he was truly remorseful for the damage he caused. I would not let him move back in right away, but rather suggest a trial period of freer contact between us. Ultimately, I would require complete transparency, and that he start IC.
But that's just me. We've been through this before. I thought we had done everything right the first time, but here we are again, 26 years later. I do wonder if he is just incapable of being with one woman.
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Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
