I would say that is a very common question.

Detaching doesn't mean you don't love or care.

It is perhaps a paradox that you must separate yourself from your H to understand a deeper sense of love for him...

And compassion.

It allows you to heal and you cannot do that while you are caught up in the storm of his life.

You must walk ahead alone and shine a light back on the path and some day maybe H will see the light and make his way there...

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am