I wish your wife knew or at least could listen to someone when they show her about this OM you speak of and what he's done before.
The reason I know that he has done this before is because she has told me. When in MLC, you deny you are in MLC. So that can't possibly be happening to her.
Don't worry about the DR book. If you find it, snag it. If you don't, I would not worry about it. They forget everything. I can't believe they can even function sometimes. In fact, they can't function sometimes.
The journey won't get shortened by anyone. The time it takes is completely dependent on the MLC'r. I did the book thing too. She scanned the book I had for less than 5 minutes. It was not DR or DB but it was on MLC. If anything it was an awakening for me to realize that she is so way, way out there. I think most of us try the book thing because this whole MLC does not make sense to us. We try to be logical in an illogical world of MLC. They deny, deny and deny. The world has to crumble around them.