I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[xin]

And it is part of the grieving process for me to acknowledge the good parts of my life with him. And that it doesn't mean I am not moving on! It means I am mourning what was.

NMM,

I agree with you about this. I've acknowledged my H's good qualities to friends and family whom i've shared my sitch with as well. I believe by acknowledging that my M was not all bad, I am less likely to become bitter and more likely to continue to believe in R and M.

I like to think that my H's lack of commitment to our M is but a flaw in his character, as none of us is perfect. And it is a flaw in my character to look pass hints of H's withdrawal from our M. In acknowledging my responsiblitt for where my M is, I believe I would be less likely to make repeat the same mistake.