The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

I do not think sex will rebuild our R. In the past W had told me that I was only nice to her during sex and after I made her feel like garbage. W also told me during our sitch that we got married for all the wrong reasons and I believe one of those reason was sex.

I have shown W and will continue to do so that I can simply hold her without expecting to have sex.

Since my last post...

W woke up in the middle of the night and asked me what time it was. I was up in bed having trouble sleeping. I had a long day a head of me today (court all day and work tonight). W had apologized to me for falling to sleep due to her headache. I told W that "there is no need to be sorry I understand your head hurts you and you need your rest"

W and I both fell to sleep. This morning I got up and ready for court. W woke up briefly and ask if I had time to make her breakfast before I left, I had time so I did so. W was in bed when I left, I let W know I was leaving and W said "be careful"

When I returned home later this morning W was up and in the shower. I had fell to sleep during this time. W had Dr. appt for migraines so she got ready and left. I had woke back up and headed back to court on another case. On my way into court W was leaving the Dr. W said she was prescribed a new medication. W said she told the Dr. that "My husband and I want to start a family how would these medications affect a pregnancy" I just listened and said "I hope these new meds work and the headaches finally go away."

Just before W had called I got an email from the retrouvaille rep in our area. I told W the details of the email and said to W "I am going to put a deposit in to hold a spot for us, I really believe we can benefit from going and will be well worth it" W said "I hope so." We ended the conversation with an exchange of ILY.

The question is...Should I not be saying ILY? is that too much pressure? W does say it in return but does no initiate.

When I returned home form work again W was in the kitchen, I walked over to her and gave her a hug. W showed me what she had purchased while she was out (some floral arrangements) I told W how great the arrangements looked and expressed how she has great design sense.

W seems very mopey or withdrawn at times. My instinct is to ask her if there is anything wrong but at the same time I don't want to pressure/overwhelm her...