Near WAW with EA - almost textbook sich

[doing my best]

SECRET LOVE NOTE EXPOSED due to INTEL

Yes....I went into my W's bag that she takes back and forth to work and did further intel gathering.

OMG!

Sunday night at the beach I saw love note and fantasy plan with OM. It was an actual plan that she drew up with a fantasy life of her and old BF. It actually had a house described, curtains, paint, fireplace. She wrote that "We will call it our Love Shack". She also wrote about her having a Mustang convertible and then some stuff regarding Maui.....digitizing some photos to send to each other, and a place in Kentucky called Rough River. Also listed was "OM = income. Me = $XXX per year". It looked like a plan for eventual escape for the both of them.

Told wife I saw notes. W at first looked at me like she had no idea what I was talking about. Then I got more descriptive. She said "Oh....those are old notes from early on". She says that it is not any plan and is her way of trying to "purge her feelings" and release old BF. W says she just writes what is on her mind and does a lot of doodling. She says she was writing down the life that they had talked about many years ago. However, for her to list his income and her income potential is odd to me. No plan...really? well this guy is unhappily married so who knows what is happeneing on his side.....

I apologized for my intrusion into her private notes. She did not even seem upset and remained calm and cool.....the same way she interacts with me at most times....almost aloof.

Went through her Google phone. No contact with OM since MC sessions started. But her history of his FB photo page had been heavily visited during the 2 month contact spree.

For some reason I believe the emotional attachment was one-sided. I do not believe that old BF was falling back in love with my W as much as she was falling for him. Sure....he is a guy and I imagine he was very flattered with her attentions again and perhaps played on it a bit. My guess is that he may
have even fantasized. But I do not get the sense he was in the same "fog of emotions" W was in.

We shall see. Going to bring this up in MC session tomorrow and have asked MC for help in hitting this and exposing it as much as possible.

DMB