Her fear is custody. #1. Her "safety net" is the presumption she'll be taking some equiuty from the house sale. She wouldn't be so cocky if she knew she'd be broke or possibly taking "debt" as the door prize.
Even if you don't retain the person, find the biggest/baddest "men's rights" guy in the province, and get his business card. Then leave it in your nightstand drawer for your wife to find. If she asks you about it, say "I haven't made any final decisions about who's going to represent me yet, but I felt it was best to get some advice in order to protect myself, considering."
Maybe such a hammer hole card, not yet played (but able to be), will keep her playing nice on the visitation stuff, and just overall.
I'm having a very stormy day too - as you all know! BUT...despite it, you guys managed to make me laugh: cadbury egg! lol
I'm in mourning...dropping the rope...letting go...whatever you want to call it, after 20 years is very difficult. I don't know why I was so strong previously and having such a rough time of it today, but I know you DO have to go through it. No way around it... sucks.
Sunny. Try to look at it as what you are gaining rather than what you are leaving.
Going toward rather than away from.
Perspecive is everything.
The excitement of getting on the plane to Mayan Riviera as opposed to going back home from there.
And I know it hurts but perspective helps. I've had to look at pics of my W and/or D with OM in the last couple weeks so I've had some body blows, for sure.
But I'm not bleeding and the bell hasn't rung.
I just keep focusing on the life I had before M and that's my target. Except I'll be smarter and wiser and more prepared for an R. Next woman is going to be SO HAPPY!!
I hear ya, CD!!! That's exactly the right perspective. For me it's been a little longer - 20 years - so, I'm trying to find a life outside of family that's just mine.
