So, for some unbeknownst reason, D asks W if she is coming on vacation with us. W says she doesn’t know and to ask her Dad. So tonight, D asks me if W is coming along. I tell D to tell mom to ask me herself and not ask through the kids.
You mean, like YOU just did there?
Puppy
This was not a mistake, just a learning experience. Next time it happens, know how to respond:
some options: "I am not sure." "She hasn't told me if she is going or not" "I don't think she has decided" "I have not decided" "That is up to her" "She has been invited, but I have not got her answer" "That's a good question. I'll go talk to her and find out." "
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712