Rob - He complained about several things that I have already 180'd on: house work, finances, my being depressed acting... I don't see any time at all for a PA but definitely could be EA.
Let's see, he complained about all of those things yet doing all of those things didn't make him any happier with you or the relationship so it's quite possible that those were just excuses or smaller pieces of a bigger puzzle.
Him mentioning "dating" is what tips me off to his intentions.
I always say women test men (subconsciously), why not consciously throw a curve ball in his direction.
Ask him a question, "you wouldn't mind if I started dating other men?" and then when he answers "No I don't mind", smile at him, tell him "OK" and then walk away.
Then this is your plan.
1. You get a job, gets you out of the house regularly for several hours everyday. 2. You start dressing differently, working out, paying attention to your appearance, looking better, happier, feeling great, 3. Go out regularly with your girlfriends and maybe the occasional "male" friend.
Give him what he says he wants, let's see what happens.
