Pearl beat me to it. Definitely, time to go "Robx/Gucci" on his sorry ass.
Puppy
Well, I told him 5-6 weeks ago that he was free to leave. It was somewhat of the Dobson speech in email form... He chose not to leave. He said he wanted to go to counseling. Therefore, I thought we were working on the R and that's why I feel so betrayed by his saying last night that he didn't see it working out....
SO, now, how do I set him free AGAIN? I had already told him that love has to be free - that if he wanted a D that it obviously wasn't what I wanted for our family but that I had no choice but to let him go. He also mentioned separating and "dating" which I said I would not be in an open marriage...
Here he sits - at home - yet I "set him free" but there is no improvement in things and he's only here because of logistics???
How do you set him free again? If you're setting him free again did you really let him go in the first place?
You don't require a 2nd email to accomplish this either. Your position stands, if he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, you agree with him, you have decided that you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
You made assumptions because he said he wanted to go to counselling, well you know what they say about the word "assume", I'll just leave it at that.
If you haven't already you tell him that you guys should both let the kids know that you are separating. Tell him that he should be part of that discussion with the kids but if he's not man enough to do so, you'll speak to the kids on his behalf. Ask him when he plans on leaving and when he plans on filing for separation or divorce. Those are questions that will make this more real for you and also for him.
I haven't read all of your thread yet or links to old threads, what are his complaints about you and the marriage or do you feel that he is already possibly with someone else? The reason why I ask is that you said that he mentioned separating and "dating", that part makes me think he's already started on that path.
