MLC, H and me

[courageous wife]

Well, I survived the business meeting with my H. He was here about 45mins.

We talked about a visitation schedule with the kids and both agreed to be flexible...he
said he will pick them up this Sat. am...said that they could come FRi night but he
would be at work so I asked if OW would be home and he said she does work the OT
also and then he said that he didn't know how she would feel having the kids if he wasn't
there...I probably shouldn't have but said "they're your kids" and let it go.

I asked him to take over one of the credit cards. He asked how much it was a month and I
told him...reluctantly agreed.

Mentioned that I was behind on the other one and could he help out with that one. Said
that we have 3 pay days this month so that extra should help out...I never understand this
3 pay day thing...it has never been "free" money in my eyes...anyway, said ok, that will
help with getting caught up. I let it go for now....kept saying how broke he is.

He brought up D12 getting braces and didn't know how we would pay for those. I just said
that it wouldn't be fair to her to not get them because of our situation...he agreed.

Talked about car ins. We agreed to get separate policies! I just got off the phone with ins co.
and it will be half the cost with me as the main driver on the truck!

We talked about our rental house and we agreed we should try and sell it. "I" am to call this
guy that we know who owns and rents several houses to see if he would be interested in
buying ours. Told him that he could borrow the truck to haul stuff outta there if needed.

H said that the kids told him that I was thinking of selling our house that we live in. I told
him that it is a big house and lots to take care of and that if something major goes wrong,
we'd be in trouble and that it would be nice to just rent something and have a landlord to
take care of things if needed. He said that I could call him and that he would have some
wood for us to burn this winter....mentioned that if he had a truck, he'd cut a lot more but he
wasn't going to go out a buy a truck just for that...said that I should stay here until the market
gets better and then sell if I wanted to. Asked him if he wanted it and he said he didn't know
how this worked but he figured that he'd sign something and it'd be mine. Then he mentioned
that he hadn't heard from his L for a couple of months and asked if I had taken the parenting
class yet and I said no and he hasn't either...

I then asked him how he was doing (leaving that open for interpretation) and he said that his
blood pressure has gone down...mentioned bike riding etc.

Sooo..I just decided to take a chance...I asked him if he was happy. He hesitated and then
said that, why can I not remember his exact words, sometimes he is happy. He is not happy
that he does not get to see the kids everyday..that there are some other things he is not happy
about...I didn't ask anymore....

He gathered up his mail and I handed him the paper to get my name off the credit card acct.
that he is taking over...I should have made him fill it out right there to make sure it gets mailed
in...he seemed a little weird about it so let him take it with...I can always get another one!

I walked out with him and he looked at the flowers in the flower bed that he made for me last
year and commented on how great they looked etc. Talked a little bit about that and then I
mentined the hydrangrea bushes and how many blooms so we went to the other side of the
house and looked at those and made a comment "see...you've got it looking so good now, you
might as well stay here" the we talked about the neighbor offering to cut down a tree for us and
take it away to his burn pile and H said that was fine but to keep the splittable stuff and he'd
come and split it up...

I told him about my struggles with the weed eater and he said...you guys are doing good, the yard
looks really good, you are doing fine. He had also mentioned that the kids and I should break
out the camper so told him we had but that I struggled with it and he said I should call and he
would help if we needed it. I told him that we had called him that day we were taking it out but
he didn't answer. He said he doesn't always have his phone on him....

Sorry for the length!!!! Any comments?