You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[ImprovedRomeo]

CTH, you're not alone in feeling like you're back to square 1 as far as finding a replacement for STBXW. I feel that way too and in reading other threads several others do too including women.

You know they say things happen when you let go of them? The tighter you grip something the more they struggle. When you loosen the grip they stop struggling so much? Maybe not the right metaphore but what I'm trying to say is that if you stop trying so hard to find a replacement maybe that's when it'll happen.

I do agree with Wii...you do a LOT of stuff, your days and weeks are full of activities. As newmama wrote in her thread there is such a thing as too much GAL relax, give yourself a break, give yourself a day off.

I don't do enough GAL myself and at first staying home was so hard, I wanted to get out and do something but didn't know what and had no plans. Now I can go a couple of days just enjoying the peace and quiet of...well nothing and it's OK. Grab a book, sit outside and read or grill some food, or do some easy gardening or just hang out with a friend doing nothing.

Same with the girls...give them some time to themselves, let them play at home, color, watch a little TV etc - or maybe your STBXW mostly does that with them but still you don't have to keep them moving all the time.