I had an idea QS.

Some of your friends know your wife has filed...

Can you get a female to call your house up pretending to be interested in you and leave your wife to answer?

You want to tell your wife "No, you just tell her I am not interseted unless my divorce is final. I am not talking to other women right now."

And when she hangs up and asks why this woman is calling :

"My idiot friend knows how difficult you are being about all this and its trying to set me up to make me feel better. That won't and I know it. I am honouring my commitments and I don't need female interference right now. I have projets on the go here anyhow."

I dunno... something like that... Just to see what kind of reaction she offers up...