DESPERATE FOR HOPE AND UNDERSTANDING

[LRT Land]

I am definitely in perimenopause and have been for years. It can start as early as age 35. IVF could trigger it to happen sooner. However, having said that, I have been to so many doctors and tried so many different meds, hormones, mail-order, etc, that I finaly said enough! Sadly, there really aren't a lot of answers out there for women with hormone imbalances. The best things that worked for me is to try to eat low carb and low sugar, especially during the last two weeks of a cycle. Otherwise the hormones go into overdrive.

My H has some very difficult traits, yet I am not ready to throw in the towel. There are those good things I would like to have with him that you mention above. I always knew if I stayed in this M I took the good with the bad. I figured I wasn't perfect either but we could still laugh and we were great parents.

I like the DB/DR idea of focusing on yourself, because you are the only one you can change. Still, I found out on my own (despite all the doctors) that my diet greatly affected my moods, annoyances, sweats. If she doesn't know, it might be worth mentioning in passing.