W: "I don't think I'm going to be able to give you what you need." Me: (without batting an eye) "Then let's get divorced." W: "No, wait. I mean, you need something from me, and, I don't think I can give it to you. I've realized lately what you're waiting for from me. That's why I pulled back. I can't give that to you."
I thought she told you she pulled back because she needed to find a hobby of her own????
Also, OBSERVE her mindset. IMPORTANT.. She is telling you that she KNOWS you WANT something from her. This means that she doesn't veiw you as letting go. She feels PRESSURE.. When someone says I know you "WANT" something from me, it means they sense that you are the one pursuing or wanting something. You have to KNOW how to reaad these things...
Future, As long as you keep coming across to her like you are a poor poor me victim, she won't be able to feel what she needs to feel for you. Women don't normally fall for a man who they pity and feel sorry for. Every time you tell her how "hurt" you are or were hurt, is just taking you further from reconciling. You NEED to show her you are not only past the hurt, but past giving her a chance and time to decide whatever it is she wants to decide.
Also, you asked her over to watch a movie AFTER she had told you she was going to say no to your invitations. Your self esteem is at issue here. Why is your self esteem so low that you can't let this woman go? Don't you see that you are coming across as weak? It is NOT attractive to a woman for you tell her how "hurt" you are. I don't care if you feel like it felt good to get it off of your chest or not. She needs to see that not only are you over the hurt, but that you are over her and that she has gone too far. THAT is when you have your chance to see her remorse at it's best.
