you need to drop the rope asap. the longer you allow him to stick around, he'll eat cake. and when he's not eating caking, he'll be looking for the negative in everything you do to justify his actions. so as long as you are still interacting, you are making it easy for him to pick at your flaws. this will lead to you "walking on eggshells" and the insanity just eats away at you.
tell me .. is that how you want to live? nobody should have to live like that.
take the robx/gucci approach. this is a speech i posted to shelby a while back:
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i think you should 'act as if' until you have spoken to your lawyer and protect yourself (gucci terms: cover all of your bases financially). he will think 'this is easy .. i love cake.' once that's all done, then give him the "i've been thinking about us and you're right. it took me a while to come to terms with it but i can see where you are coming from and i think d-ing is for the best. i want to look out for our kids' best interest and not disrupt their lives because of this so i think it's best that you move out. the couch is not an option because the kids will ask questions and it just won't work. your stuff is here and the door is over there."
other's have used a version where they banish the was to the guest room or couch. my version is harsher - was doesn't get the couch or floor.
i don't remember whether your sig indicated whether you have kids or not. if not, the speech can be modified.
