Need a Plan for My Marriage

[DaddyLongShanks]

DLS,

Two are married. One just recently. The other one said she almost divorce twice. The third one I don't know.

No cheating with any of them that I know of.

Thats in your favour then. If they know you as the "sweet husband" who will do almost anything for his wife, then you will get their votes. You can't tell them this though.

[LSG]

DLS,

I think you are right. They know I love my W. The OM works at her work, so they know him too. I don't know how he acts around them. It will be interesting to see how he is after my divorce with her. He will change when he is served too.

[LSG]

Journaling (July 17, 2010):

Wife came home at 3:21 pm today without even calling. She called at that time. I spent the day at the park with the kids. I showered the kids when I came home and dressed them. Sakura is having a sleepover at 6:00 pm. She when to get snack at Von's for the kids.

Last she had a sleepover with Akiko, Maho, and Midori. I received my response to my OSC yesterday by mail from her. She called twice yesterday after leaving and at lunch time. We did not speak, just the kids.

[LSG]

Journaling (July 18, 2010):
July 17, 2010 - Wife takes kids to buy snacks and make dinner for us. She makes dinner and buys snacks because she gives me no money even for an emergency for the kids if they need something. I clean dishes. I have to figure out ways to take care of them on my own with no money. D has a sleepover with her friend at 6:00 pm, and I spend time with them and clean up. All W does is lay in the bedroom by herself and interacts very little. I watch TV and help kids when they need it. I spend some time watching a SYFY movie too. I have them get ready for bed and brush their teeth. I put them to bed and clean up after them by myself. I go to bed at around eleven and the kids too.

Kids wake up and watch some TV.

Sunday, July 18, 2010 - I wake up and get myself ready early, and then I wake kids and feed them breakfast, make their beds, have them brush their teeth, and get D's friend ready to go home.

W wakes up and just sits on the sofa and does nothing to help. I make our bed and spend time with the kids. Kids have W and me go to a show on zoo animals with her friends. D tells W before laying in bed next to her that she is going to a pet store with me and S. I take them to the pet store for a couple of hours. Get the kids home and feed them lunch. All of us go swimming together. W gets out after staying a short time. Leaves and comes back to the pool. I get out after a while of playing with kids. Everyone showers and W feeds the kids a snack. Kids and I go to the park for three hours. Come home and kids sleep for a while, and then we go to McDonalds for dinner, but I did not eat because W has said some many bad things about me in the Response to my OSC. I eat to survive for now. I am made to feel guilty if I take anything from her. It is very difficult. I will be okay. Come home and W takes off for an hour or more to put gas in the car. She gets home and then goes in the bedroom with S to watch TV for an hour. I get S to brush his teeth and rimind him. I put kids to bed at 10 pm by carrying them. S give me a little statue to protect me, and W nothing. S and daughter goes to bed. I spend most of the day the kids, and W does not even attempt to spend time with them. She had a choice to go when kids asked her to come. Her choice to stay home.

I am now journaling here.

[LSG]

OM has been in Costa Rica from July 5, 2010 to July 18, 2010 with his two sons. W was checking both their horoscopes today. He is a Virgo, and she is a Piesces. I knew she would be back into him today since he is back.

[LSG]

Journaling (July 19, 2010):

Well, W came home at about 7:42 pm and left at about 7:40 am. OM is back from Costa Rica. Her whole personality is different. She is more distant everyday.

I meet with an attorney. Once her and her family know I have an attorney all he!! will break loose. It is not going to be fun. I have a good attorney and a wonderful support network that will not be matched anywhere. I can not believe my good fortune. I am definitely very lucky today.

It is going to put the final nail in my marriage. I never wanted a divorce, but I have one, and I need to do what is best for me and the kids. I wish there was someway to put a stop to this madness.

[idontunderstand]

Hang in there, LSG.

I'm glad you have a good lawyer. It helps so much having someone on you side. Your good fortune is earned from your hard work, it didn't just happen. Good for you.

I may not be around much for a while. I have some things to do on my own. I will continue to check on you. Keep up the hard work and don't settle for anything less than you deserve. Give your kids a big hug from IDU!

BTW, continued luck on your job search. Again, with a little luck, you make your own good fortune. Don't get discouraged. I know we all do, but make sure to let it go quickly and get right back at it. You have had to deal with much more that I have and are on the right track. Keep it up.

[LSG]

IDU,

Well today did not go as well as I thought. The money on the credit card was not as high as I thought it would be, so I could not retain him. He will do the paperwork, but I need to come up with more cash. I will be working on that problem everyday until the hearing. I have to make work because he said that this hearing is as important as some trials, so my kids are not taken and abducted by W to Japan. This is a very serious threat. I need to know of a company or anyone that will loan me $1,200.00 ASAP. I do not like to ask these questions, but I have no choice. My kids are the world to me, and I have to stop her from taking them.

[LSG]

Thanks IDU for the support. I hope to see you around here as often as possible. I need so much support right now.

I am going crazy with this sitch. It is becoming very scary.

The job looks to be between me and another person. I may have to interview a second time. How do I bring up that I may be in court sometimes when I am being hired for a job while someone is on leave. It is so stressful everything for me. I am holding up well, but I need a big break in my life and soon.

I am praying, and I found another four leaf clover. I hope this helps me.

Wife is coming home late again. We all went to dinner, but W and I do not even say a word to each other.

The kids are great, and I am fighting so hard for them. I have to.

[LSG]

Attorney told me yesterday that he does not know how live day to day in my situation. He said it must be tough. He said it is so abusive on so many levels. I told him I do it for the kids, and that I have no choice.

I am waiting for my response to be amended by him. I hope it is good.

Wife asked about some money I spent at 7-11. I just smiled at her. She asked how I was going to pay it. I just said nothing and played with the kids. She is p!ssed tonight for some reason.

I don't care. I don't have to repay it either according to attorney.