Hey Puppy, I was wondering if you could give some advice. I don't know if you have read any of my threads Sandi, Allen and others on here have been helpful and given some good advice. W and I have been separated for about 2 months now.
I found out about affair in Feb. As far as I know there has been no contact with OM. W has been remorseful and even was continuing MC although we had secession about 2 weeks ago & she said she was not going anymore. Oh well our MC is also my IC and was seeing the whole family for a while now just me and S.
Well after the first time in Jan W said she was done. Now again she says she is done. So I’m at a lost. Not only are we dealing with this Affair situation, but W is also dealing with issues from the past. One of them includes the affair her ex had on her while she was pregnant.
I do trust her. It's just hard based on what’s happened, but I want to make our M work. The other night after we calmed down from arguing, somehow we got on different subjects.
W asked me why I would want to try and make us work after all that she has put me through. I said it's called forgiveness and I can forgive her as well as some of the things I have done. W said she’s not sure she can forgive for what she has done.
I’m trying to stay away like everybody has said I need to do including my IC. The people her and my IC seem to be the only ones who think our M has a chance.( I know I can’t count on anything, but it aint over till all my hope is gone). Well I can’t sleep so I think I’m going to the gym. thanks talk soon Hope
Hope, I'll be honest. The reason I haven't followed your sitch is because you keep starting new threads, and it's impossible to get caught up.
I'll try to catch up over the weekend, but I rarely disagree with Sandi and Allen anyway, so if you're getting advice from them, they're among the best.
Hey thanks Puppy, I don't mean to jump threads, and confuse people!! I'm confused enough and a mess at times. Anyway this site is great and the advice from everyone is much appreciated. If it's not too much to ask can you help me link my threads so I just have one post. Thanks again Well off to work thank you. Hope
Hey Puppy, Just wondering if you got to read my threads sorry they are all over the place kind of like me, but I'm doing what I can. Still no contact; maybe it's because I told her during our blow out on last weds. Not to contact me unless it’s to do with our S when he gets back from visiting family.
However the last time our S went to visit his 1/2 brother and sister W was a mess and did not contact me. when it was about to deal with money issues. Which were rather important as my rent was due and our mortgage was coming up..
Any suggestions on what to do and how to make my threads be so they’re not all over the place well talk soon. Hope thanks...
You can link to your other threads, and stick to one main thread. Just use the little "chain-link" icon above the little box you write your posts in -- the one second from the left.
Hey Puppy thanks, I will do my best to put it on the thread I have with (Sandi advice please help!! I'm at a loss!!). I seem to get a lot of advice on here thanks talk soon... Hope
Hey puppy, I know you super busy like everyone else on here. I was just wondering if you had some words of advice or insight on what I can do next!! Well thanks again and talk soon Hope
Hey puppy, I was wondering if you could give me some insight on what you think about my situation. Most of it is on (Sandi advice please helps!! I'm at a loss!!). However I think I'm fu**ing stupid I thought and wanted to trust my wife, but things don’t add up. I felt good after last night as I saw my S for the first time in a while and haven’t been in contact with W for about 2 weeks since our argument about our separation agreement and how she still is going by Jan 7th!!
Acting like no affair no mixed emotions since we were imitate in Feb and still were in the same bed till end of march for the most part!!(Not that it matters) Anyway the Rest is in (Sandi advice please helps!! I'm at a loss!!).
Today I went over to see my son and drop him breakfast before work, but he is still a sleep. In the bathroom is all her vitamins and I find out she is taking birth control again. In March she stopped taking it all together case it was messing her hormone levels. So I don’t know what to think anymore??
Maybe it’s nothing, but she started taking it while S was a visiting family last week. So add up the D stuff and the fact that the OM was going to be moving up here for work sometime?, and the fact she still has those euphoric lost and pissed feelings for him it doesn’t make since.
I’m not looking to snoop anymore, but it was their in her vitamin Box. Why all of a sudden would you start back up again if there was nothing going on?
Maybe I shouldn’t care and believe her as we both said during this time we weren’t dating or going to have sex. I just don’t understand and the fact that our S will be visiting our family for probably 3 weeks & we will have no contact except maybe money. I just need some advice thanks I hope to hear back well off to work. Hope
I'm flattered you want my advice, but really, I do NOT have the time to get sufficiently caught up on your sitch in order to offer you GOOD advice.
Your best bet in getting more action on your thread is to not limit its Subject to just one reply, as it turns others away. Just stick to one thread, update it often, and reach out to others and post on THEIR threads, and you'll find that they start replying to yours.
