Ok I've been reading this thread and I am curious; does this mean that it is a good or bad idea to get your WAS to look at pictures of you as a couple when times were really good? Like, assuming that my H is still attached to me in some fashion, and I think that's a reasonable assumption, and that he's in his own way going through issues in the breakup of our marriage even though he is somewhat hiding it by being with the OW and/or alone with his own thoughts, will it trigger anything with him should he see pics of us from before things went south, or videos or whatever? I have boxed some things for him here and there and could put some things like that in the boxes for him to "find" if that would be effective, but if it would NOT be effective I would not want to do it.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying