I left a message for H and said as long as he is living with other woman, I will not give him a dime, that we need whatever funds we receive to make ends meet around here.
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Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I am sorry that your h still hasn't gotten himself together, but it sure sounds like you have! I wouldn't give him a dime either while he is living w/the OW. I cannot believe he would put your son in the middle of his asking for money!
Sounds like your daughters are doing well and I'm glad your one daughter is in Boston for the summer. She needed a break.
I pray that you find employment soon. Hope you are doing well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
MWG, What do you honestly think is going to happen here? I think you are a nice person, but I think you need to make some changes when it comes to him. I mean, your kids have told you they don't want him back over there, he has shown no interest or desire to change anything. I think its pathetic that he stays married to you and lives with her. I guess he does it because he can. Why do you stay married to someone when your own kids don't want him around? I can't take away your commitment and willingness to make things work, but its just not going to. He isn't going to come back unless he has nowhere else to go, he has demonstrated that for years and its sad that you are wasting your life on someone like that. Being a martor doesn't bring you happiness. Sorry if it this makes you mad, but this guy is a loser and you need to get rid of him.
i am still pretty much looking for work, the unemployment has stopped due to congress not allowing it to continue (we are going on week four with no income), have had more car issues, and am getting D18 ready for college. she bought her plane ticket the other day and she is all set.
S19 still plans on attending community college and is all signed up.
D16 is still vacationing back east and is very spoiled now. she is going to the beach, shopping, pedicures, manicures, clothes, hair coloring and hair cuts, etc.
H--who is that? haven't seen him since last year and the girls have not seen him in over a year. he did speak with S19 a few weeks ago for two hours and said he stopped drinking and was on week 3 of no drinking. nobody has been to see him since the middle of may.
that is all that is happening.
thanks for asking.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
HE always drank but never as much as he has during this affair/MLC. Several years ago, he stopped drinking as it improved his heartburn problems.
And now he has told S19 he stopped altogether. D18 overheard their conversation and verified that this was true what S19 told me.
If true, I hope he keeps it up. A good shot of reality would be a nice wake-up call for him.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Had to submit new modification papers the end of June which I completed but they said they never got them so I faxed them again. I did indicate that it was still a very tight job market but that there were some job possibilities.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MWG, I really hope things work out that you guys can keep your home. Its quite obvious that your H isn't going to wipe his tail, let alone get a job. With that being said, you made a very true statement. " H Who is that?" MWG, I know that you usually ignore my posts, but I swear, I don't understand why you don't get a divorce and move on. This man is not coming back.
