Taylor, Do I think she will go through with it? One thing I have learned so far is when they say something one day it can be far different the next. What I think is irrelevant. The tunnel thing. I read about that with the heartsblessing posts and they can run back into the tunnel before coming out further again. Nothing is further from that truth. What happens is you get to experience them peek out of the tunnel and things seem to be going in the right direction and then they retreat back. When they retreat back, you ride the roller coaster with them. This is where the detaching thing must become part of you. If you don't do your training on detaching, you pay for it over and over again. You have to decide when you get sick of paying for it. When you can truly detach, then it does not matter what they say anymore. Somewhere in the posts it says believe none of what you hear and 50 percent of what you see. Tried to convince myself that I am exempt from that. I am not exempt. I see you are trying to do the calculations so you can figure out when this ends. Me too. It does not appear that it will work that way. God is the one with the formula. YOU are in the formula too. It will be part of the result. The result may not be what we are expecting. If you work on YOU, the result will be spectacular! You and I are in our own fog. The LBS fog. We have better equipment than the MLC'r to get through the fog that will be good for us. WE HAVE: Faith in our Creator Faith in His blessings Faith in ourselves (Tough to grasp for a while and always a work in progress)
MLC'rs have none of this equipment. Their equipment is broken and dirty. None of it works well for long and then they have to drag the results along with them wherever they go.
I could go on and on. Contained in the blessings are things like knowledge (books on MLC, this board, internet info on MLC, books on how to better ourselves), counselors that are versed on MLC, friends and family. I set up a network of friends that get it, don't get it, and are clueless. Guess who I talk to the most? Please know that I don't recommend this because the more people around you and your husband that know about this will make it much more difficult to dig out of the mess IF it all works out in the end. Since you and I can't control anybody, we have to do the work on ourselves. If you are like me, you get angry or frustrated when somebody says you have to work on yourself. I am so far away from being an authority on any of this stuff.
I would love to tell you how old I am. Just paranoid I guess.
When you wrote: (Don't know how to do the quote thing yet)
It started very slowly and he just was enjoying the attention of other women at that point. But didn't do anything..at least not that I knew of. And to be fair, maybe this happens to all guys, I don't know.
What do you mean about maybe this happens to all guys? And to be fair? What's that?
That threw me. Enjoying the attention of other women? Just need some clarity here if you don't mind.
