She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

Also, I think it was Coach who wrote somewhere in a post that when his W showed signs of reconciliation he just went ahead with his life as he was doing. He wanted to make sure she was really committed to it and he knew if she really was, she would keep pursuing the issue. He made her work to have him.

The more they work at trying to reconcile the more investment they have in doing it. Plus it will show her real desire - if they don't want you they won't come looking. If they want you, nothing can stop them from working hard to get it.