Anyhow QS... You haev enough material here to work with. Its only rough drafts, but its enough for you to put some scripts together for tomorrow so you are prepared.
AGain I will warn you NOT to use the "I am doin this for ME" thing with your wife... Its oK for US to say that to you, but your wife will misinterpret and ABUSE that...
Doing for YOU is about maintaining personal integrity, its not a justification to do something hurtful or selfish.
Your WIFE will hear it that way and think this validates her behaviour if you say "I am doin it for me"... she will just think she was cheating "for me" as well...
Anyhow, its very easy to say "I might want to do x iwth my kids one day.. or I am saving this in case I have kids I want to hand it down too, etc..."
Don't mention your wife, just mention kids ... Leave HER to volunteer...
I was thinking of what you said earlier about her pursuing you... She was pursuing these other guys too... I think she likes being the dominant pursuer...
Remember that... SHE wants to pursue... I think... your call... I am only a poster on a forum... But I have my moments
