Somehow managed to lose a long post that I was working on, so here is the abridged version, but it is still l-o-n-g!
W took kids to her brother’s on Sat for an overnight with the cousins.
So, my brother came to town and we played golf. While golfing, our sandals that we left in the car essentially melted. The insoles on his bubbled-up, while mine curled-up like elf shoes. They were $40 Columbia’s and they were ruined, so I was kind of upset. Took them back to the store today and they exchanged them for new ones!!! Bro and I had some really nice steaks and vegetables on the grill for dinner and then went to the neighbors for music and drinks. We had a good time. Didn’t miss W at all.
Today, W got home about 3pm. Bro and I had put up some outdoor speakers in the back yard and a hose hangar in the garage. Basic home improvement stuff. I went over to the neighbors again for about 45 minutes and left my phone in the kitchen. I noticed it was in a different position when I came back, so I asked W if she was reading my e-mails again. She said yes, I figured you left it there for me, so I read it. There wasn’t anything interesting though and I won’t be reading them anymore. I said you can read my e-mails any time you want to, I have nothing to hide. We argued a bit and I told her she was pathetic. She said that I was pathetic if I thought OM had anything to do with our sitch. I said it doesn’t matter if he does or not, she has other issues that she needs to take care of and I walked away.
Went to see how other neighbor’s fishing vacation went and then went to a local bar that serves excellent food to get a sandwich and a beer. There was this hot little blondie (yes, I’m partial to blonde’s) tending bar and waitressing and I asked her if they had any ales on tap. “Bitter Woman” she says. It is my favorite beer in the bar! I love bitter ale’s, so I told her I would have one. W hates this kind of beer, but it is my favorite, so right off the bat we have something in common. There are other guys in the bar that know this woman and she says something about being bitter herself and I say, “I don’t think you are bitter.” One of the guys says, “you don’t know that”, and we all laugh.
I order some food and she tells me that she is new in this job and isn’t very smart, so she still needs to work at it. I told her that I didn’t think this was rocket science and that I was sure she would pick it up quickly. This was only a part-time summer job for her, since she was a special education teacher during the school year. I ordered some food and I asked her about her job, her degree, etc. She said she was a social worker in the past and had a social welfare degree. I told her that was the same as my EX, who was a probation and parole officer. We chatted a bit more about this and then she started to tell me about the garden she was trying to grow, her first one ever. I used to have a very large garden at my old house, so I know how to talk about all of that. It was a good conversation and she mentioned to the other workers that we were talking about her garden. We hit it off pretty god. I found out she has a 2yr old son and lives locally. I asked her her name, told her mine and said that I would probably see her again. She works there on Thursday’s and Sunday’s. I think I may have found a new hangout!! While I was at the bar, S called with some stereo questions and asks me where I am. I tell him that I went out for a sandwich.
When I get home, W’s van is gone and so are the kids. I never told her I was going out for dinner by myself and didn’t care at all. I figured that since I talked to S, maybe she was mad and took the kids out for dinner too, although they had eaten mac & cheese about 4pm. The I see that she cooked burgers and hot-dogs on the grill. Don’t know what is going on. Apparently they took the dog to the boat launch for a swim and when they got back, D and I worked a bit in the yard. She said W was kind of mad that I left without asking them along and said, how did I know they didn’t want a sandwich too? I felt kind of good about making her mad!
We have a annual family vacation coming up where we spend a week in a cabin on the lake. When W said she was filing for D, I said we should cancel it because one, we couldn’t afford it and two, I didn’t know if I wanted to spend a week there with her with extended family in tow. She told me that we couldn’t cancel it, because the kids looked forward to it so much and that if we canceled, it might be as hard on the kids as the divorce would be. Is she f-ing kidding, or just delusional? Anyway, we were planning on going with just the 4 of us and perhaps two of the kids cousins tagging along for a couple of days. Well, this weekend, her brother told her and the kids that he didn’t think it was a good idea for the cousins to come along without their parents. All of her grand plans are going by the wayside!
So, for some unbeknownst reason, D asks W if she is coming on vacation with us. W says she doesn’t know and to ask her Dad. So tonight, D asks me if W is coming along. I tell D to tell mom to ask me herself and not ask through the kids. Why is she putting the kids in the middle of this? That just isn’t right. So when D and I go back in the house, she asks W again if she is going and W says that it is up to Dad whether or not she can go! She is the one who is insisting on both the D and the vacation, why is she doing this? I say nothing and D asks another question. W tells her we will talk about it later. Part of me wants to tell W that she cannot go and just do all the fishing, swimming, golfing, campfires, etc. with the kids myself. Forget W. I just don’t know at this point.
I also picked-up 4 tickets this weekend to see the Stone Temple Pilots at a small local venue in about a month. I wrote it on the calendar and when W saw the tix, she asked what they were for, so I told her, but didn’t invite her to come along.. We have seen STP together twice and really enjoyed the show both times. I think I may ask the blonde bartender if she wants to go with me!
Sorry for such a long post, but it was a pretty good week-end by my standards and things are beginning to look up for me.
Take care all and best of luck to everyone. I’ll be in touch when I can.
