She thinks I'm controlling her and giving her rules. The only thing I've asked her for is no contact. She doesn't get it. She'll text saying that it's just her and the kids there at the pond, nobody else. Doesn't matter, how do I know.

How do I explain to her that it's not controlling, and that we have to have this in order to reconcile?

M 32 WAW 34
D - 5
S - 4
PA 1/09
Moved out 3/09
She filed 5/09
90 Day Postponement 11/09
State Dismissed case 4/10
Moved home 9/10