What do you consider "contact"?

[EJohn]

Hello all, haven't posted in a while, but I've come across a sticking point in my sitch and was wondering what others thought.

What do you consider "contact" with the OP?

In my sitch, my WAW ended the affair, but had repeatedly tried to remain friends with him last winter. After a few months of me standing my ground, she finally ended that friendship, or so I thought. (they work together). She seems to think that if she is in a public place and he happens to be there, it is okay to exchange pleasantries with him. Plus I had also found out she had put his number back in her phone, and re-friended him on facebook. He has me blocked so I created a new account and found it. She defriended him when I called her on it, but was pissed. "It's just fb, who cares?" Um, I do!!!

She has also been taking our children to his uncle's farm, who lives next door and has a pond. To me, even if the other man isn't there, that's contact. Anything remotely involving his family is contact. They could be the greatest people in the world, but that is a threat to my marriage. She gets very mad when I confront her on this. Am I crazy? I don't think I'm out of line by saying they have to go as well. We are still not officially reconciling at this point, it's better, but this is a major hangup for me.