So, 13 gallons of adrenalin (and a pack of smokes) later, all for nothing.
Of course, from the airport she goes to OM's SIL's.
Then, an hour before she is to pick up D, texts "Since you are in (big City aka "Worktown"), can we meet to switch Calla"
I didn't actually know I got it so by the time I read it, I was back home (call it Housetown)
So who shows up at 6? Yep. Chatty Cathy!! All happy and interactive. Like nothing happened the last 4 days. Like it was a dream sequence. And the best part, has OM's SIL in the truck (clearly doesn't realize I know WHO she really is.
I give her D's stuff (prepacked and ready) and tell her what D's new "tricks" are. I give her the meal breakdown. And, then go back in the house to get D's DVD player.
"Why this?" "Cause she won't sleep without it" "We were planning to come back tonight" "Fine then"
And off they went.
OM's STBXW is in Worktown near where they are going. No one has seen her new car. So she's gonna have a look for OM's truck or car.
In the meantime, thought I'd post and get some feedback and/or recommendations.
I don't want this all swept under the rug so I want "A Statement" if she tries to pretend it didn't happen.
She's just dikkin' with ya, CD. Trying not to give you the satisfaction of knowing that her infidelitus was interruptus.
I wouldn't have a "speech" with her until you're ready to be able to preface everything with "I have decided -- ." I would spend the week getting your ducks in a row, and -- frankly -- just GAL. Don't give HER the satisfaction of thinking you're sitting around moping over her, and pining over what she did.
Remember, the "default" position in your marital dynamic has shifted dramatically this weekend, from you WONDERING if she's having an affair/ACCUSING her of having one, to SHE'S HAVING AN AFFAIR.
SHE WAS BUSTED.
YOU BUSTED HER SORRY ASS.
The way I see it, the burden's on HER if she wants you -- or anyone else in her life (her mother, her aunt, her friends, and even her grown daughter one day) -- to believe that she DIDN'T break up her family thru adultery.
