21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[Chuck66]

Controlling yes, perfectionist no. She hasn't stopped doing the chores. She does the laundry almost daily and doesn't want me to touch it. She did the dishes and laid the kids clothes out. We are in a brand new home and she normally would be decorating it with pictures and things. She has no attachment to this new home or anything in the future or making the house into a home. Before if I put something out of place she would put it back exactly the way she liked it. Now she leaves it where I know she doesn't like it. She just doesn't care. She has checked out. We went to St Louis today and she said 3 sentences all the way down and back (2 hours each way). How can she not tell me if this relationship has a chance or not. I got a week ago, "Don't be pissy if I haven't decided what I want to do yet." I think that means with filing for a divorce. We both have lawyers and thousands sitting in retainers. I told her I would not file. That's when she said the "pissy comment."