okay so here is my thinking;

No contact with h whatsoever (phone, text, mil, ) go comepletely dark.

Screw him if he can't do what's right by me or his kids, help to get a/c fixed, my car, kids to his mothers so i can go to work,.

New PLan:

if/when h contacts me - ignore him - say - do nothing

if/when h pops up on my doorstep - ignore or what

should I try to go through concilliation thru court.

1 it would make filing for a divorce not possible for 60 days and if he showed up for the appt a chance to reach some decisions.

or should i just wait to see if/when i get served divorce wait till last day to file response? let it happen?

he made the choice to change his phone number to prevent me from contacting him, always saying just get off his a#$.

maybe the time will allow me to detach?

Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline