Well, I AM single, and that struck me as a little inappropriate for a first communication to someone that I didn't even know that well back in the day.
I am less likely to think he meant it the way it sounded, but I don't know why I have that feeling. Not quite sure if or how I would respond, though.
You weren't really friends, he was a freshman, you were a senior.
Sounds VERY MUCH to me like he's trolling for phone sex partners trying to friend any possible female he can think of and then screening them immediately for vulnerability. This is the same pattern I encountered on dating websites, very familiar. I smell predator from here.
Don't ignore your intuitions and the red flags. You owe this man nothing. Unfriend him and stop communication.
Well, that didn't end that!! I totally see how this internet crap can open doors--but it's not opening mine!
I dropped kids at Bible School, came home to get some work done. Phone rang, it was an unfamiliar number but I am not on any no-call list so I get them from all over. Lately I answer them (used to ignore them) because they almost always ask for Dan, I say he doesn't live here, and then that company stops calling me.
Well this time I answer and it is MFG (married fb guy). What the hell? He looked up my number? Or is it listed on fb? I need to look in to that...
Anyway he got me totally by surprise, asked me what was up, I lied (I hate lying but still) and said I was getting ready to pick my kids up from Bible School in 15 minutes--it was 4:45 at the time so that made time-sense...
He just said he had been 'reconnecting' with people on fb that he had known in high school and enjoying catching up. He did say he was married and he and his family moved to Washington to live near wife's family, etc so I thought maybe he was just feeling nostalgic. I remember living 1500 miles from family and I got homesick, too!
Anyway he asked where I was teaching, harmless stuff (not personal stuff). Then just as I was cutting off the convo to go 'get kids', he says he and his family would be in town for sister's wedding in September, we should get together. I said it would be nice to meet your wife and son.
THEN he started to tell me how they never take time off to travel, he works long hours at his own business, has to work 16 hours and then come home and do all the household stuff (cook/clean/childcare) because his wife runs her own business out of the house and works evenings and weekends so they have no time together and bicker a lot....
See where this is going? I can see it even without my contacts and I am 20/200! So I said, nice talking to you, make sure you and your wife start spending time together, gotta go!
Sheesh..................................not sure but can I block a number from calling me at home??? I know I can just refuse to answer it too, maybe I need to be more direct. I just don't think it inappropriate. Slippery slope and all. Not that I would go there, never after what I've been through. But I won't contribute to his fantasy world either. Ugh.
Don't respond, that ends that! He's way too familiar for someone you hardly even knew back then.
You guys are all right. He was a freshman, I was a senior. His sister was a casual friend, a junior at the time. I believe we got to be 'friends' because I was something called a "Trusted Reader" in high school...junior and senior kids who were 'good kids' were chosen to go to the middle school and correspond with 8th grade writing students...the kids wrote in journals each day about anything they wanted to, and we could comment, praise their writing if they wrote stories/poems, etc. Was supposed to build their confidence and also that way when they were freshman and the juniors became seniors, they would 'know' some high school people.
I doubt they could do that anymore, too many inappropriate possibilities! In fact, my first boyfriend ever, hot plumber, was a trusted reader. I dumped him after an 8th grade girl put her journal in MY pile to read...full of flirtatious innuendo between her and him. (Your butt is like butter, are you horny, etc etc) I turned it in to the 8th grade teacher and he got fired from the job. And I dumped him. But I digress.
Anyway I recall this guy was one who wrote to me back in the day. Well, once you are married I am no longer available for daily conversation about personal things.
I totally see how this internet crap can open doors--but it's not opening mine!
