Thank you ALL for your support. As always, it is greatly appreciated!
Valeria, thanks! In the judgement, the judge did put in the findings that ex was found to be incredible and that she did not believe that he owed ow 100 thousand dollars.
This judge (really a support magistrate) sent the case off to the actual family court judge as she can not hand out punishments.
We have court on Thursday. My lawyers said the judge we will see is a "no-nonsense" judge and may very likely send ex straight off to jail.
Ex owes me 18k and agreed to this amount. I don't recall if I mentioned it here but he said that he would be taking a penalty if he took the money out early from his investment. My lawyer responded that it wasn't my problem.
Then this past week his lawyer called my lawyer while ex was in his office and said that not only would he take an 8 percent penalty when he gets the money out, but he can't get the money out until Sept. 22. That would make it one year since he invested it.
At first I responded to my lawyer that it shouldn't be my problem but my lawyer said the deal they were offering wasn't bad. Ex was willing to pay for my legal fees and start paying me the correct support payments if I agreed to wait until then. My lawyer said this was a good idea to agree to it as there is no guarantee the judge will reward me legal fees (which is about 10k at this point). He said the would also put it in there that they have to pay me 5k for now and he was going to ask the judge that if I didn't get the money by Oct. 1, then ex would go to jail.
All was agreed upon until the next day when my lawyer got a fax from his lawyer with 2 different proposals. Both only benefited ex. He wanted me to agree to a $1,200 reduction a month and drop my violation petetion. He also admitted in the fax that ex makes 68k alone in his side business a year. So in all actuality there was no pay cut. Oh yeah, and ex is appealing his case.
My lawyer wrote back to his lawyer: "Your settlement proposals are rejected. It is quite apparent that Mr. X still doesn't "get it", even after having been found to be incredible and, basically, a fraud by the Support Magistrate. I will waste no further effort discussing the issue. I will see you in court next Thursday and will let the judge make his ruling".
Ex is acting like he is holding all the cards. I hope things go my way on Thursday and the judge finds him guitly of being willful and makes him pay my legal fees.
My lawyer said that the family court judges rarely go agaist the support magistrates decision. If the support magistrate found him to be a fraud then the family judge will take her ruling on it.
Bottom line, ex is an idiot.
Oh yeah, and also, ex's lawyer put in the proposals that ex will remain co-owners with his gf as he can no longer afford to own it by himself as he planned. WTF do I care? What does that have to do with my case? (Ex said in court that he was hoping to eventually own the house by himself and by his gf out)
Now onto other things.... Sorry this is long! I've been feeling kinda down the last few days. I have no motivation to do anything. I'm feeling kind of sorry for myself. Not sure what is going on.
I think a big part of it is that I miss being in a relationship. I miss being a married woman. I am not talking about being married to ex as I no longer miss him. I just miss having someone to talk to while the kids are gone, someone to cuddle with and be intimate with. Someone to hold my hand and go out to dinner with.
Don't get me wrong my friends are wonderful, but I still feel like I am missing out on something. So many of my friends are going on vacation with their husbands and/or kids for the summer. I never got to do that when I was with ex.
