And if your wife brings up you not letting go or says its over AGAIN.. just hit her the FT with this :
I am not talking about staying married. Right now given how dishonest she's been I don't even know if I could even forgive her anyways. I am prepared to be divorced. I am not avoiding that.
What I AM avoiding is being treated with disrespect. Divorce happens, but that does not mean that either of us lays down and allows the other to walk all over them or be hurtful. Neither of us deserve that and I am doing my damndest to be civil.
<list things you have done to demonstrate this>
Despite this I have been lied to, bullied, and now I am being pressured out of my home. I am not fighting for my marriage, I am doing what I can to avoid being lied to, pressured, and bullied.
I will not be disrespected. I don't HAVE to move yet so I will not. I love my home and I am enjoying the work I am doing on it. I see no reason to rush to sell a home before its time. If my wife is upset then she should have thought of explored that with a family therapist before she filed on me.
I am not being respected here. I am honouring my commitments and I ask that she reciprocate. As long as she is civil and respectful we can get along well. I will not be bullied out of my home.
