WHAT emails did you find in June? This story above says OM called things off IN March...
First piece of advice...
Sit down with yourself and write down word for word both you and your spouse's comments... just like a stage play...
Get to understand WHY the argumetns are happening so you can AVOID THEM.
1. Each time you interact with her and a fight breaks out you do a LOT OF HARM to your marriage. It IS possible to assert yoruself wtihout a fight breaking out. 2. You also need to give your wife three to six months to fully recover from the affair. It looks like it went on for almost six months... you need to give her that long to process that its OVER. She's been building fantasies up in her head for six months, you can't expect those to dissappear in only four weeks.
Especially when she's still visiting his facebook page.
Get a NEW famliy therapist who is halfway decent.
My advice? YOU GO on your OWN to INTERVIEW the FT... if they are GOOD, THEN you bring your wife in...
Its like a boat you want both of you to use... YOU get in FIRST to make sure its SAFE to USE... once its safe then you invite your wife.. you don't both just dive in blind... MOST Family Therapists SUCK.
Update your signature with a detailed history of where you've been both good and bad points so you will get more responses.
Right now I think you are in good shape.
Your wife needs to start seeing a better you... what have you done DRASTICALLY different lately to commit to a better marriage
You can't ask her to return to the old marriage.. That's GONE.. you need to show her what the new one looks like.
I don't see anythign in the story about her filing etiher but your title suggests she has filed with a lawyer?
