Divorce process has started

[bigdgsr]

Sorry about that. Starting having problems 11/09 and knew see was still talking with mutual friend that I no longer talked to. Marriage starting going downhill 1/10. She suggested consueling but we didn't go til 3/10. Accused her of affair and being dirty 3/10. That is when the physically side of the marriage shut down. She stopped MC 4/10. I moved out for one night and she gave the ILYBNILWY speech 5/10 when I returned. Discovered EA 5/10. D talked about since 4/10.

She is not willing to go to therapy anymore. The MC we used was probably not the best and it did more harm than good.

I caught FB messages back and forth between her and other man. They had been texting each other since 12/09. He got into a R with another woman in 3/10 and then my W confessed feelings for him in May and he turned her down. Saying they were only friends and he didn't want to be the reason for the breakdown of the marraige. Those are the messages I finally caught. I confronted her about it and she confessed to the EA. Said she would defriend him and stop contacting him. I have found a few e-mails from June that she sent but never anything back from him.

After I confronted her we started working on the R and we were good for about 3 weeks and then an argument started and she completed backed away. Now everytime a small speed bump happens she backs away. When I found the e-mails at the end of June right after our argument I gave her the "I won't live in the same house if you are having an affair speech."

She got completely angry and mad with me. I went cold for a week and decided to speak with an attorney. She found out and got all mad about that too. So she ran out and got a lease on an apartment.

Just seems that when things go a little bad she pulls away and starts grieving about the OM again or she tries to contact him. She is obsessed with him and his girlfriend.

We actually had a heart to heart conversation this past Tuesday and she admitted to wanting to work on the marriage but she didn't know what to do. She wanted to think about everything. So this past Friday she leaves me a VM saying she wants to talk about things before she leaves for vacation. I didn't get the message and somehow we got into a little argument and then the cold W comes back out and pulls the, nevermind, we don't need to talk now, we are just done speech. Haven't talked to her since Friday.