We had a convo with H, I am loosing my memory and told him the last 3 years were very hard on me, not just him, my dad's sickness has really cost me a lot. While talking to him, I started getting upset and told him :and to think that all those nights I needed you and told you so when I first found out about my dad, you were saying you were at work and you were living with her, how the h$ll could you do that?"... But I wasnt aggresive, more of a "stunned you could do that granted you are so nice and back home now" thing, he nodded and said "Maria, I really dont know how I did those things...". I left it at that.