"Why don't you do this? - referring to something pet related
THEN:
"Are you waiting for me to do XXXXXXX?"
Me - "It's your turn"
"YOU NEED TO TELL ME THESE THINGS!!!!" - Then storms outside mumbling something under her breath.
She is PISSED today. And it REALLY shows. I mean not 5 minutes in the house and her attitude just comes RIGHT out. The look on her face is sheer disgust and anger.
Time to be pleasant, cheery, and find something REALLY REALLY fun to do today.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
She just won't lave you alone man... She's still there...
I can't comment on the rest, I don't know what hte issue was about.
She's pissed because she's getting a divorce man. I told you that...
Her problem is she thinks because she's miserable that divorce is the best and only solution...
She's NOT happy right now... despite what she is telling everyone...
I thought of a truth bullet you can throw at her if she brings up divorce again :
I don't wanna be married either. But I made a commitment to you and I am going to honour that. Until we are no longer husband and wife I am going to honour our marriage. It's very easy to make this ugly and I am determined to avoid that and remember the best part of our marriage instead.
I am in the process of taking down all out "together" photos, even our big 14x11 wedding portrait. I have gotten most of them, and I KNOW she has noticed. But I can't walk through this house and be forced to look at all the happy memories.
Despite her "moving out" if I don't agree to sell the house, she asked me to make room in the freezer for her food because she is going shopping tomorrow.
I don't know, but that doesn't sound like she's moving out.
BUT, she's the type of person to be sneaky and pack that stuff up and go over her friends when I am not around.
I am already starting to notice things of hers missing around the house. She appears to be squirreling away stuff at different people's places so she ALWAYS has a place to go.
And now she is COMPLETELY avoiding me. It's funny how her emotions just go from one to the next on a dime.
I bet people are telling her that its "normal" for that to happen during a divorce and that "she'll get over it".
Last edited by Quicksilver264; 07/18/1004:42 PM.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
It is normal for this to happen durince this situation, But teling her to get over it isn't helpful.
It means there's a marriage there that can be saved and she should explore that...
Good call on taking the pictures down... Her heads a mess right now and that may make the point to her that you aren't clinging desperately to a marriage and that you are OK if it goes either way.
I don't know about you being a storage facility for her... It sounds like an excuse to keep visiting you if you ask me...
So I am in the neighbors pool sunning myself, and I see her storm off and get in her car.
She comes back an hour later with stuff for home improvement and to paint. She is PISSED and is SHOWING it. She is moping, and angry, and snapped at me.
She asked for a screwdriver, and I gave her one. She didn't say thank you so I said "You're welcome"! in a happy voice.
She screamed "I SAID THANK YOU!!!!"
The look on her face shows everything.
Now I am just wondering whether to stay around and be haaaaapppy or to go out somewhere. And I will try that paragraph you gave me Allen, because she seems to be itching for a fight or to bring me down to her misery.
Plus she hasn't been on Facebook in 3 days. That is a RECORD for her. She probably will tonight. But 3 days without it is a loooong time for her.
Plus the grass needs to be cut, but our mower is broken. She is focusing on ALL the things I haven't gotten done yet, and is waaaay mad.
I need a good 180 here I think. Something to throw her way off base and make HER head spin.
Last edited by Quicksilver264; 07/18/1007:21 PM.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
Offer to help... OR, if you think she's just going to snap start helping... FAR AWAY though... Go cut the lawn or something... Go buy a mower...
This is actually a good sign... WITHDRAWAL might very well be kicking in...
Work on my statement, you want it more concise than that... and you don't want to sound like you are insulting her... I don't think my quite does it, but its a good first draft.
She may just be reacting to all the work you did on the home... It's probably REALLY BUGGING her about cancelling the divorce now... I would not be surprised at all if that's what's going on in her head...
If she brings it up like "Don't think any of this makes a difference" or "I am still going through with the divorce" that tells you quite clearly whats on HER mind...
That's the thing QS... You don't bring up divorce, SHE keeps bringing it up...
I think its scaring the hell out of her right now...
She is being civil now, and ONLY concentrating on getting the painting done to make the house easier to sell.
I just feel like the more I do around the house, the closer it gets me to having it ready to sell. And she knows at a certain point, the house will look immaculate, and will demand me to sell it.
Then when I say:
"I promised you I would these things, and I am keeping my promises NO MATTER what the circumstances. I didn't do them to sell the house, I did them for ME."
She will see that as clinging to the marriage. Or
"I'm glad you are making changes, but those changes are going to have to be for someone else you fall in love with, and not me".
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
