Divorce process has started

[bigdgsr]

My orignal thread is in the newcomer's section: Original Thread

My wife and mother in law will be moving out of the house on 8/7. She said she is moving out because I kicked her out of the house. This past week had been some what civil and she told me she started having second thoughts, but then the conversation would change and she would get mad. I went to see an attorney 10 days ago and she assumed I was filing so this past Monday, she started the divorce process. I haven't been served yet.
I exposed an EA about 5 weeks ago. After that I could see a change in her and we were working on things for 3 weeks. Once a small argument came about she would back away again and we wouldn't talk for a few days. I've been monitoring and I she doesn't have any contact with the OM, but I know she is still grieving and has hopes. She is constantly looking at the OM's GF's FB page and his page, but she is not friends with him so she can't see anything but a few pics. She goes on FB every night to view this. I know that there is no hope for R if she is still grieving over the OM. If I bring up OM, it instantly turns bad and she shuts down.
On Friday she left for a 10 day trip with her cousin. I know for sure the OM isn't with them. I'm starting to slowly detach from the situation and her being away is definitely helping. After she gets back we still will live in the same house for 2 weeks. I think my best thing is just to detach and move forward with my attorney if I get served.