I know now, I have not been that woman he wrote those notes to for years...kids, life etc...so we both had changed. I did throw those away awhile ago. When/if H comes back, we will both be different people again and hopefully there will be new notes!
Yes! I agree with CD (rhymes ). I like what you wrote!
Don't you think that another thing that changed was the "persona" that your H projected onto you? That is bound to change with all of the life changing events you and H went through together. David Schnarch (Intimacy & Desire) says that early on in relationships our sense of intimacy comes from self-revelation. We tell our loved one every detail about our lives before now. This is new and interesting and builds intimacy.....but at some point we will run out of new things to reveal about ourselves and this has a negative impact on intimacy and closeness. To weather this transition, we need to find new ways to build intimacy with our loved ones to keep that bond strong. Schnarch talks about this in his book.
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