I think my H probably left with less then anyone else here...he came home and took his shaving kit! Left his guitar, his family heirlooms, clothes, underwear! you name it, I had it except for the shaving kit???
I packed it all up and put it in my sister's garage...hahaha, still have to get it out...H has been back for a long time now and we still have his stuff in her garage!...
IB...I can relate so much to how you feel...I think it comes with us wrapping ourselves up into our H's life and our kid's lives...we lose who we are...and when one of those parts steps out, H leaving or even the dreaded empty nest...we take it harder then others...that IS part of our life! They can't leave and take it away!...that is why as much as I love my family and my H I know that I am complete on my own...they compliment me, not complete me.
Take care and keep moving on that LS...that will make you feel so much better
