I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

Pressure on his family just fails at every attempt. His family has never been that close to either of us as it is and in fact his mother in particular never wanted him to marry me. She did a lot to try to keep us apart because I was not the type of daughter in law she wanted (she wanted barefoot and pregnant not a career person without kids). I've left voice messages and emails to them; they do not respond. Only one of his siblings responded to an email to me, and she said "you deserve better; divorce him." As a result, she isn't pressuring him to end the affair. She just told me to get away from him and find someone else. He has spun the story to his family as if to suggest that this was coming for him--the breakup--even if there was no OW, and they seem to believe him and have accepted that the marriage is over, hence, they don't return my phone calls. So the pressure part, exposure part, it just isn't working. It is getting around to people now that we are separated, but most don't know why, but the fact is that no one seems to care enough to call him out. The presence of marital breakups and affairs is so more common around his coworkers than intact marriages that people just seem to find it all titillating and not something to condemn. Even our closest friends will not take a stand. I've asked repeatedly and none will put pressure on him. There seem to be very few moral people left in this world.