par you need to take a break from these forums and your wife, we told you a while ago you need to detach, that means letting her go, if you really loved her and wanted her to be happy, let her go, let her be free to make whatever choices/mistakes in her life she chooses to make.
It's hard but it's something you need to do, you have a lot of anger inside of you now and it's because of the fact that you won't detach from her.
