IF the girl I fell head over heels for and married EVER shows back up, I will do everything in my power to win her back!
Tom,
I wanted to go back to this, that you posted last week, because -- while I certainly understand the sentiment (and the love) behind such a statement -- it is EXACTLY the kind of thinking right now that you have to RESIST.
It's perfectly okay to FEEL that way, but it's imperative that you don't ACT that way, upon the very first positive sign from your wife that she may be making a move back towards the marriage.
It really should be more like:
"IF the girl I fell head over heels for and married EVER shows back up, I will do everything in my power to win her back! have to re-evalute very carefully what got us both to this point, and establish some boundaries, because I don't think either one of us can go thru this again. I will move very slowly, and not jump at the first chance I get!"
