I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

Yeah Allen I know you are right. I think the 64,000 dollar question though is why? Why is he in this addiction? This is a person who was an amazing and loving and perfect husband for 21 or so years. A person who could never for one second even consider an act like this or a pattern of behavior that was so destructive to both of us. I mean he is unrecognizable. And if it were the OW first, like if that were the REASON that we were separated last year, I might be able to understand the behavior, but it wasn't, it was the whole MLC thing last year going on for a year BEFORE the OW became part of it, now she is just the final chapter. Back during the initial part of his MLC, pre-OW, he kept saying he just thought that his unhappiness meant that every decision he'd ever made was wrong, so he needed to destroy everything he was in order to rebuild himself (including the marriage). I just can't get what would possess someone to have such thoughts. We would not be here were it not for that mindset that an otherwise really happy and settled person developed. It's insanity.