Antonia, he's rationalizing an addiction.. That's all...
You need to STOP listening to what he's saying.. It's NONSENSE and it won't help you.. That's right out of DR.. Ignore 100% of what he tells you.
I am telling you the same thing. He's rationalizing an addiction.
The addiction is the problem, not some twisted piece of logic he has in his head. It's a vicious selfish addiction that must be driven out of him.
Just remember that as tough as it is on you, its tough on him too.. That's the point... It's tough on both of you, but YOU aren't exposed to his addiction directly anymore.
You need to focus on enjoying your time away from the addiction and let it slowly destroy him until he decides if he wants to climb out of the grave he's digging for himself and be a man or go down swinging like a child.
