My state is also no fault. Property is usually 50/50. If there are special circumstances, a judge can order additional support (ex.me needing health ins.) if asked etc.
All you have to do is call the utiltiy co. and ask how you can switch...I don't think it will be a big deal.
Definitley try a find a L that will give you a free consultation if you can...I had to pay $150 an hr but when I retained her, that was taken off my retainer fee.
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
CW, I didn't think it would be too hard to change the utilities to my name. I am just more curious as to why H is resisting this. It just may be a control thing for him or possibly that it would signal just one more step in him letting go of his 'previous life' that he's struggling with. Another thought I had was that maybe he likes the fact that I give him money for them. Since he always paid them and when he left part of his spew was resenting how much the kids and I cost him. Maybe he gets satisfaction out of me giving the money to him for them. Who knows??? As I said, it's just curious to me.
I do not think about it very much until it comes up. I found out it was S26 who pressured his dad about switching them over this time around. I told S not to pressure his dad over this as it is not a big deal at this time.
I think you are absolutely right in it is a control thing, and that it's another way to 'hang on' to his old life. Cake eating. Just do it and don't ask him about it. Besides, you have to worry about building up your credit as an independent woman, not enhancing his. You should be able to do most of it on the phone without leaving the house.
Today was D17 graduation party. Lots of folks, food and fun.
H came late because he had to work. He pulled up on his bike and didn't come into the house. Went right to the garage where the guys were standing around talking about the backhoe my S26 has been working on.
H didn't even want to eat the food that he used to love in our previous life. H's cousin came in and got a plate ready and took it out and offered H forkful after forkful which he willingly ate.
After I was done in the kitchen I decided to go out and sit with the guests that had congregated at the garage. H kept looking at me. This was mentioned by several people. H's phone kept going off which he didn't even take out to look at.
Finally. H decided that he needed to leave. Here is where I back slid. I followed him to his bike and I told him it was nice and he said thank you. He said, it's dirty, and I said, you always kept them nice. H said thank you for inviting me, and I said, thanks for coming. I said be careful. He said, I will, and he left.
I guess I shouldn't have followed him to the bike. Obviously, it was pursuing behavior. I just miss my H and I figured what will be will be.
H didn't even want to eat the food that he used to love in our previous life. H's cousin came in and got a plate ready and took it out and offered H forkful after forkful which he willingly ate.
It sounds like he ate to me. That counts. 7/17/2010 No I don't think you were pursuing. Testing maybe. Thats OK. IMHO.
Sounds to me like you were the hostess with the mostest. His lack of mingling and having to be taken a plate of food sound more like guilt to me than anything else. Still think you should have sent home plate for the OW, maybe something with mayonnaise in it that has been out in the sun for too long.
And I don't think you were pursuing, just being courteous as you would to any other guest leaving.
