I'm not an expert here - however I understand your dilemma. I have been going through a similar situation.
Here's the bottom-line as I see it: You have to decide the kind of life YOU are going to lead. It sounds as if you continue to go to church and are trying to make good decisions. I don't think lying to FIL or anyone else for that matter is necessarily the right thing to do. Now - I wouldn't take an ad out in the paper announcing the A / but I think you can honestly look your W in the eyes and say - I'm sorry you feel that way, but I responded honestly to your father because I am not going to lie.
You have to be able to look yourself in the mirror at the end of the day. Just my two cents worth!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
